Thu 12 Jun 2008
On Preparing to Leave
Posted by Brent under Vietnam
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I will leave Vietnam in five weeks’ time. Between now and then I have only one weekend without commitments. My parents will be here for two hectic weeks at the beginning of July. The end is barreling down on me.
MCC has provided reading material to help us prepare for the process of reentry. We’ve been warned that returning home can be as difficult as moving away. We are encouraged to prepare for a different sort of culture shock.
So I’ve been taking stock of old memories, recounting the surprises I faced in my early days here. It seems probable that those same things, no longer surprising, will be shocking in their reverse forms. So what do I expect to surprise me?
I expect my most difficult task will be readjusting to relative solitude. Quiet streets — low in both senses of the word volume — with drivers insulated from each other by metal and glass, and startlingly devoid of families and young couples on motorbikes, will disorient me. Malls and box stores playing light rock radio will strike me as unpleasantly sterile replacements for markets and sidewalk stalls blaring Asian pop music. Assuming I’ll spend at least a short while living with my parents, the number of people with whom I share a house will drop from eight to two. Life will grow quiet. Perhaps too quiet.
That that house will be insulated both from the weather and from external noise will probably come as another subtle and depressing shock. It’s not that the noise of Hanoi is particularly enjoyable, or that I haven’t often felt like escaping it. But my tolerance for background noise and activity has been raised to such a point that a quiet Canadian town like St. Catharines may seem altogether eerily silent.
One other observation that constantly registered during my first month in Vietnam was how slender the Vietnamese are, both women and men. It no longer surprises me. A related surprise was how casually Vietnamese apply the term ‘fat’ to people who experience difficulty managing their weight (is the latter phrase oblique enough to be fashionable?). I will have to exercise discretion in comparing the height and weight of North Americans to southeast Asians.
And, of course, I’ll have to come to terms with being short again myself. On top of everything else, that may just send me fleeing back to Vietnam.







